As a Christian, as a follower of Jesus, as a human being, could I… would I vote for Gay Marriage…
Can of Worms – Once we open it, more than what we expect will come out.
In the past whenever the subject has come to the forefront I’ve kept quite on it, didn’t think it was my place to say anything, that I could add anything to the conversation…
or maybe realising if I did it would change things… not being willing to live with the repercussions.
I understand this subject & surrounding issues are close to many peoples hearts, so before your knee jerks I’d encourage you to read the Disclaimer, leave a comment, send an email firstname.lastname@example.org
… or say a prayer.
Why now? I guess of late I’ve been asked a lot, I’ve found myself in several conversations, I’ve found myself.
I guess of late I’m happy to wear the fallout.
By no means comprehensive, here are some thoughts on Gay Marriage, pros, cons, thoughts on cons, thoughts on thoughts… thoughts on the worms that crawl out of the Can.
My Cons list
I wouldn’t vote/support Gay Marriage because… If I did it would/may change various peoples relationships with me, may change the level of involvement I’m able to have with various groups/organisations that I really enjoy working with…
may lead to my being labeled & boxed in, any contributions on any other subject ignored because of thoughts on this one…
may cause myself or people I care about to endure unnecessary harassment… may cause the trolls to come out from under the bridge.
Really, when I think about it that’s the only con I have… selfishness. None of the other cons stack up for me… and selfishness, I don’t want that to be a part of me.
Thoughts on Cons
Gay Marriage will make a mockery of marriage – lets say it does, wouldn’t that just lead to a case of the pot calling the kettle, “black”. We have a few 1000-yrs head start on making a mockery of marriage, a divorce rate indistinguishable from those who don’t attend church, scandal after scandal that seem as dependable as the changing seasons.
I’m protecting the institution of marriage! – no you’re not, most likely you don’t like change (if the sanctity of marriage is a legitimate concern read the section below “marriage & marriage”).
Seriously, read some sermons around the time of the civil rights movement, “if God had wanted the abomination of inter-racial marriage he wouldn’t have created the separate races”.
The Bible clearly states homosexuality is wrong – to be honest it’s not that clear to me… and that’s besides the point, let’s say you believe homosexuality to be wrong, choosing to oppose Gay Marriage won’t mean there are less homosexuals, just more who are angry with you. You can’t “law” people into the kingdom, you just create barriers & resentment.
In whatever context someone is in it should have salt & light, and love & hope breathed into it.
Thoughts on thoughts
It’s culture shaping Church & the Church should be shaping culture – look at slavery, look at civil rights, at women’s rights, women’s suffrage, child labor… there have been Christian leaders at the forefront of those movements and we claim them with pride. But we do so without realising that they were the minority voice within the church, that the majority of Christians were indifferent, apathetic or straight oppositional to those changes, that the church as a whole has never been an early adopter. That the reason it is so shaped by culture is that the majority is indistinguishable from culture. That the only time we seem to engage with culture is when we feel our position of comfort slip away – left longing for 1950’s white-middle class-America.
Humanity – On couple of occasions my life has been touched by suicide & back in the day this would have led to being buried upside down, discarded or in an unmarked grave. I have a friend whose mother is buried in a grave separate from the churches because she had a child out of marriage. We have a dark shameful history of treating people as less than human, as lives not worth remembering, or celebrating.
We do the same with marriage.
You’re allowed to & you’re not. You’re love is to be celebrated & yours shunned.
Less than human.
Marriage & Marriage
Have you ever watched two people have a conversation about what they believe is the same thing, but each is talking about something different? Simultaneous comedy & tragedy.
Marriage is the same.
There is the cultural understanding of marriage – two people committing to each other, to love for life.
There is a biblical understanding of marriage – of God being involved, of symbolism/embodiment/reflection of trinitarian relationship, of Jesus/church, of promise/hope/Resurrection, echoes of Eden, of covenant…
these two ideas of marriage aren’t the same, you don’t unwittingly stumble into covenant…
A marriage between two friends male/female who don’t believe in God bears no implication of marriage in the biblical sense…
the same for a marriage between two males who don’t believe in God.
It doesn’t help matters that most Christians couldn’t tell you the difference, and it’s interesting we don’t protest our straight-atheist friends getting married, we celebrate with them.
The Church gave marriage over to culture a long time ago, there is no renaming or trying to reclaim it, but of understanding. Understanding that to a faith community marriage has deeper implications than our cultural understanding. Realising that cultural marriage isn’t an attack on that of faith or vice versa. That both are beautiful, have significance to their communities & are to be celebrated.
Judgement – If when it’s all said & done, and I stand before God & I’ve gotten this wrong, I know I will have erred on the side of Love, and that is something I can live with.
Ultimately I can’t think of anything more beautiful than two people committing to each other, to love, to journey through life with…
that is cause for celebration, be they straight, gay, religious, coloured, rich or poor…
whether it’s a ceremony of commitment to each other or of covenant with God…
Love is to be celebrated.
- Rob Bell comes out for Marriage Equality (huffingtonpost.com)